Ep. 23: My Singles Mixer Dating Experience

Note: This is the intro from episode 23. In this episode, I recorded this intro before I went to a singles mixer. Then after I went to the event, I recorded the rest of the episode to share about my experience. Here’s the intro.

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I'm about to go on my first singles mixer. Like since I was 21, 22, I haven't been to a singles event for a long time.

I'm 36 years old. I'm single. I'm looking for my husband in 2024, and I'm tired of the apps. If you're single, you probably understand what I mean when I say that because it just doesn't feel very authentic. You start having a conversation with someone and they ghost you or you meet them and they're a lot different in real life.

We've all been there, well maybe, maybe some of you have been there, but some of you who are married probably have no idea what I'm talking about. But here's the thing, I know that I need to put myself out there in order to meet the man of my dreams. I know that dating is kind of a numbers game and that's why the apps can work sometimes because you can match with 10, 20 people a day.

You can have conversations with so many different men, but you know, it just doesn't feel right for me anymore. So, here I am, sitting in my office at almost 5pm. I actually have a little glass of champagne with me because I'm a little bit nervous if I'm being honest, because again, I haven't done this kind of thing for a long time.

And also, I'm going by myself. I have some single friends, but let me tell you about the theme for tonight's event. So the theme is winter sports lovers. I love winter sports, I grew up skiing, I know how to snowboard, and I love sledding. I love, you know, ice skating, all the things, right? But I'm a little bit nervous that I'm gonna walk in there and it's gonna be like 25-year-old dudes wearing beanies and they're like, “What pass do you have?" Like, do you have the epic pass or like how often do you go skiing?” So I'm a little bit nervous about that. Skiing is not my personality. It's not a part of what I do every single season, but I do love it. I love the concept of it. And if I honestly, if I had the partner to go skiing with, I would totally go. But I probably wouldn't have a pass because I don't think I would go every single weekend and I really don't think my guy is going to go every single weekend, but I love to apres ski.

So that's why I'm going. I'm like, okay, if I can go into a room of guys who are like in their mid-thirties and they love Colorado, they love winter sports and they're ready for a relationship, then I'm down for that. I'm down to go meet guys in person, but I'm definitely very nervous. Like I feel sweaty, I feel hot. And the champagne is getting to my brain a little bit, but I'm excited. And honestly. I don't have a lot of expectations for tonight, but what I will say is by me going, by me buying a ticket, and by going to this event, even if it's by myself, I'm showing myself and I'm showing the universe that I'm ready to meet a partner that I'm ready to fall in love.

And I've struggled with this for a long time, just getting over past relationships, getting the courage to go back out there and date because it can definitely be awkward. So I will say, I'm really proud of myself for doing this, even though it could be totally awkward. And I could go in the room and there's like 25-year-old girls who wear beanies and they're like, “Do you shred?”

I don't even know the lingo anymore, but, I'm gonna risk that. I'm 36, I'm single, I'm successful, right? I'm doing the damn thing in my business, on this podcast, in life, and it's taken me a long time to gain that confidence, so yeah, I'm gonna go. I'm gonna go put myself out there, in front of people, and it's going to be scary, but like, I'm really excited about it.

I have no idea what's going to happen tonight, but what I will say, this is the intro of the podcast. I'm going to come home after this event, after this singles mixer, and I'm going to record a podcast episode about my experience. So you are literally coming along with me to get back out there in the dating scene, in my thirties. And you're going to help me find my guy. And what I mean by that is just your support alone. When I started posting about this on social media, when I texted my friends, like, should I go to this event? Everyone's like, just go, don't have high expectations. Like, yes, you might meet the love of your life tonight, but they all encouraged me to go because also like men who buy a $40 ticket to go to an event when they probably don't know a lot of people, that kind of shows that they're ready to invest at least time and a little bit of money into a relationship right or at least meeting people. So that's what I'm doing.

I'm gonna take a sip of my champagne. Let's cheers together, and let's go let's go do the damn thing. I truly feel like what's happening for me right now is I'm about to meet my life partner. I'm about to meet the man who I'm going to marry, have a family with, travel with, and just live life with. I'm not gonna cry because i do have a full face of makeup that I don't want to ruin because i'm already nervous but that just gets me so excited and thankful that he's out there. And so again, thank you for being on this journey with me.